Is it child abuse when a single parent wakes her child up by pouring water on the child while sleeping.?

Question

My daugher get up and cuts the light on my grandson and if he don't get up. she took a some water in a glass and poured it in his face and to make him wake up. He is only 10 years old. I feel that is abuse. Or she will get a belt and start whiping him to make him get up.

Answer 1

thats wrong

Answer 2

Maybe its her fault in the first place for not having the child go to bed earlier, you could suggest an earlier bedtime instead of fighting in the morning (thats what I did and its working well.) I would never pour water on a childs face and deffinatelly NEVER use a belt. She could get up earlier and coax him out of bed every 5 mins or so, maybe slowly waking him up is the key (have to do that with my hubby) Talk to your daugher before she gets her kids taken away. GL

Answer 3

This has nothing to do with toddlers or preschoolers. The belt is a bit harsh to get him up. Turning on the light is not fun, but many ,many parents do this so children will not go back to sleep. As for the water, it depends on how much water you are talking about. I have poured a small amount of water on my oldest when he refused to get up (after half an hour of trying every 5 minutes). He thought it was extreme but he left me little choice...it gets to the point the parent will be late for work AND risk getting in trouble for the child being truant if they do not get up. It only took using water one time for him to start getting up when I told him...if he didn't, I would ask if I needed to get the water, that always got him up. It is not abuse, it is an extreme measure when others have failed. You should be more supportive of your daughter and if it upsets you so much, try to find another way to ensure the 10 year old gets up in the morning. You say "he is only 10 years old" like it is unreasonable to expect him to get up in the morning at that age.

Answer 4

Well lets see. Since you are her mother maybe you should get up early one day and pour water on her to see how she likes it. The next morning flip on the light and beat her with a belt. If she still doesn't see a problem with that then call child protection on her. That is a HORRIBLE way to start the day.

Answer 5

When I was 10 my mom did the here's comes the tickle monster coming up your back gonna get your tickle spot gitty gitty goo! that's always woke me up in a happy mood! Being 19 now I can wake myself up however my 16 year old sister is one of the children who has a hard time getting up and her being 16 the only thing that does wake her up is water so my mom squirts water out of a spray bottle which is a mist and she doesn't do it in her face she does it on her back! My mother never believed in spanking, he always believed in talking to us and letting us know what we did wrong in a civil manner and if that didn't work the tv or car keys were taken away so hearing that a 10 year old boy getting a spanking if he doesn't get up! I think the mom is abusing the power of being mom! You should let your daughter know what she is doing wrong and if she doesn't change you should report her! I'm 13 weeks pregnant and I couldn't ever see me doing that to any of my future kids. A kid shouldn't be woke up my getting hit!

Answer 6

Splash of water on the face is fine but a whole glass on the face could cause drowning since it takes less than a tablespoon of water asperated to drown. Beating a kid for being tired is abuse. Get the kid an alarm clock that is fun like the one on Sister Act (out of bed lazy head) and put it across the room. If the kid has to get up to get rid of the annoying noise it is easier to stay up then if the alarm clock is right over his head.

Another suggestion is to take the child to the doctor since excessive sleepyness can be a symptom for another unlying disorder such as diabetes.

Answer 7

Uh, the glass of water is not necessarily abuse, though it isn't very nice. But the whipping with a belt definitely is. You better step in and get this stopped before she gets reported to the authorities and gets taken away for beating her child.

Answer 8

Being a single parent has nothing to to with whether or not her behavior is abuse... yes, it is abuse. Whipping and pouring water is completely inappropriate. I hope you take steps to protect your grandson.

Answer 9

The water isn't abuse. Just a rude awakening. But the whipping is...I would get some help for your daughter.

Answer 10

OH MY GOD! I am so sorry. I know you must feel awful that your daughter is doing these things. That is definitely child abuse. You need to set her down and talk to her and if that doesn't work you need to call someone like child protective services or the social services. You might even be able to get custody of the child yourself.

Answer 11

well if he wont wake up after trying for an hour and needs to get up and waters the only thing that works then water isn't abuse unless its on his face to where he could drown but the belt is defiantly abuse call cps!!!

Answer 12

the belt is abusive the water not so much i would call child protective services for their opinion on this matter

Answer 13

they child is only 10 no matter how hard it is to get him up there are better ways make him go to bed early if he don't get up on time the night before my son is9 he lays down at 7 with a movie and gets up by 7 every morning for school by himself. he even wakes me up have the time if he don't get up on time he has to go to bed with no t v . although to reward him for his good work all week he is allowed to stay up as late as he wants on weekends

Answer 14

The belt is definitely abuse. Maybe you should get him an alarm clock.

Answer 15

Ohmy sounds like abuse to me

Answer 16

If this is going on just to get him out of bed, imagine what happens to him when he really misbehaves. You need to step in or have protective services step in. She needs anger management counseling and he needs an alarm clock.

Answer 17

the water no I dont think she should be aiming for his face though the whipping is a bit excessive She might be taking out her aggression of her ex ont the next best thing thier son

Answer 18

You need to call Child Protective Services. This is totally wrong. Poor kid. Some parents should have to have a license to have a kid.

Answer 19

That's definitely abuse!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

What's wrong with you to even have to ask the question? What about that poor boy and what he's thinking,feeling? She needs to be reported immediately.

Answer 20

I have three girls,ages,3,8,9 I would never do something so mean to my kids like that,thats very cruel,you need to put your daughter in check!

Answer 21

someone needs to say something about this of course this is child abuse.

Answer 22

thats mean....someone should do the same to her and see how she likes it!

Answer 23

YES!!!!

Answer 24

maybe....