is my son possessed?

Question

my son is 3 and 5 months old he throws tempers at the flick of a switch and when he does theres nothing anyone can do, he goes bananas most of the time its to get what he wants, like today for instance we got groceries and as we bringing them in the front door he gets in a tantrum as he can see his grandmothers house and wants to go there, we are hoping to start him in nurseary school in 2 weeks and he needs to be potty trained and he makes it impossible, we took him to a specialist and they said theirs nothing wrong with him as he was acting like a godsend and butter wouldnt melt, he got me and my wife stressed

DOES ANYONE HAVE A MAGIC WAND OR SPELL TO HELP?!!!!!!!
(incase your wondering yes i love my wee boy to wee bits and would try anything to help him)
p.s thank you for taking time to read this all input is much welcome

Answer 1

The important thing to remember about tantrums is that they're about frustration. Your son can't communicate what he wants, he can't understand why he can't do things and have things, so it all comes out in a tantrum. It's not that he's "bad", it's just that he's at that stage of developing. As he gets older, he'll understand more and he'll learn different ways of communicating, and provided you give him clear rules the tantrums should stop.



In the meantime, there are some really good websites out there with advice on dealing with tantrums. I've put some links below. Good luck!

Answer 2

In that possession only happens in the movies, no he is not.



I had 2. My son was easy never spanked him, never had to correct him much. My daughter, was different. You could remove priveldges til the cows came home and she'd still act out. She respnded only to spanking, not beating, but spanking, on the bottom firm enough to sting, but not really hurt her.



Today she is a wonderful mom of seven, some of whom get spankings too and some do not. Each child is different.



Discipline, whatever the form must be immediate (but not if you are real angry), firm, consistent, and tailored to behavior and personality.



try a gentle spanking, then send him to his room. If he cries, let him, it is good for his lungs. Also he should already be potty trained and many pre-schools will not take him if he isn't.



If you don't want to spank (there's nothing wrong with it) but if you don't want to, take his favorite toy(s) away, but be firm and don't give them back the same day. If you tell him 1 week, it needs to be 1 week.



I took my son's comics away when he was 11 for 2 weeks. Told him not toask for them early, he did and it became 3 weeks. He got the message didn't ask again and got them back in three weeks.



Do not let the child make the rules, wear you down or run the house and that is what is happening now, I strongly suspect.



You are the parent and your child will not hate you for being firm, despite the crying, etc, that is what they need and want. He's testing and pushing the boundaries and so far he's winning.

Answer 3

It sounds like conditioned response. He may be able to sense it when you are tense because of his behavior and he may already realize that you might just give in when he acts like that. Try two weeks of never giving in even on the small stuff. I think he needs to be reassured that YOU and his Mommy are the boss. So it is loving discipline. No yelling or screaming (which is doesn't sound like is an option in your home). It used to be called the "terrible twos" but it stretches out into the threes and fours now. He is just learning how to be a "big kid" and wants to do more than he should be allowed.



IF you ask him what he wants all the time he will get the idea that he always gets a choice. My daughter does this and gets a rousing no to questions that should never have been asked. Like, "Do you want lunch now?" The 2 year old most generally will say no even if she's hungry. Small children are being offered too many choices when it should be the parent who makes the decisions. I think it should be, "It is time for lunch now" for example.



I am not saying that is what going on in your case but if you think about it and you DO let him make decisions all the time it could be part of the problem.



Good luck. Remember perseverance even if it breaks your heart!

Answer 4

Nope, don't have that wand or magic spell, but I can tell you your son is acting normally. At three years old, he is beginning to understand that your wishes and his don't always coincide, and when they don't, he has no way of "properly" expressing that disappointment. So, he throws a tantrum. And when he throws a tantrum, the best thing YOU can do is remain calm, and put him in his room and tell him he can come out when he calms down. Once he realizes that throwing tantrums will only get him removed from the family, he will stop.



As for potty training? Well, I will tell you the same thing my sister told me: I have never seen a five year old that still wears diapers.

Answer 5

Just from my experience but have you looked into the food issue.

My eldest at 3 was terrible - tantrums resulting in half my house being destroyed - it really felt like she was possessed and there was no way to deal with her except put her in a room by herself for some time out but even then after a while she would deliberately hurt herself so we couldn't even leave her.

Doctors and Health visitors were no good, ADHD was even suggested and she was to be referred to a psycologist.

I decided before I took her to look into the additives e numbers etc in the food I gave her. We discovered by spending hours on the internet that a lot of the symptoms she had and her behaviour could be linked to consumption of Aspartame. We had tried everything else and nothing had worked so I took it out of her diet. Within a week she was a changed child and I mean completely. There was the normal strops but nothing any where near the scale she used to have.

Aspartame is not a widely known intolerance but once I took the facts and her behavioural diary to the Doctor it was concluded that she did indeed have an intolerance for it.

It might be worth a try for you too!

http://www.sweetpoison.com/aspartame-side-effects.html

Answer 6

My son had temper tantrums when small.

I used to sit down(making sure that he was safe) and completely ignore him. Repeating from time to time"i´´ll speak to you when you are ready to talk like abig boy)

The same in the street. If we were in a shop I went out side and sat on a bench, paying no attention while he screamed his lungs out.!

While out driving I`d stop the car , park up and wait.Sometimes it was hard and i had to brazen out the stares of strangers.



I never, ever gave in and gave him what he wanted.

He had to learn that no meant no.

Finally he realised he got no attention at all when he had a paddy.Nor did he get his way.I would wait until he stopped and carry on as normal.









At the same time I GAVE LOADS AND LOADS OF PRAISE EVERY TIME HE WAS GOOD.



Eventually the message got through.!! He`s eight now and an absolute angel.

Perservere with it and the tantrums will stop sooner rather than later.

Answer 7

It's a stage he's going through, but you have to nip this in the bud to a certain extent. You have to make sure you follow through on your threats of what will happen if he does this, what are you using as a punishment? Naughty chair, step, something? As long as you make him aware that you won't accept the behavior and there will be consequences that you and your wife with BOTH stick to, that will get you on your way. Nursery School is going to help you a LOT, there he'll learn the world doesn't spin around him LOL Calm yourselves, it's not like you are evil! It really is his job to push every boundary he can, as hard as he can. Poor you and your wife, you apparently need to be around other normal kids so you don't think you're alone ;) Trust me, once he's there for a week or maybe less you'll see a change!

Answer 8

I dont think he is possessed, but I really understand what you mean. I know you have probably tried everything, but here is what I would do. Like..........if he is in the yard throwing a tantrum, pick him up, take him to his room, leave him until he is finished. Talk to him about what made him mad, but not for long, (dont focus on the bad behavior)

When he is being good, make a big deal out of it.

I will pray for you! He will get better. I am sure he is acting his age. Good luck.

Answer 9

I have a daughter she is 3 yrs and 3 months she throws a right paddy for silly things like she wants to turn the tv off she wants this and she wants that i try not to give in just to have a quiet life stick to what you say if you say no then do not give in find yourself a time out corner or step and sit him there til he calms down the trick is to make him see whatever you and your wife say goes he needs to know you are boss not him it is slowly but surely just starting to work with my little girl. as for potty training try treating him and make a big deal out of it go up to grandmas house so he can tell her he used the potty, when he doesn't use the potty try not to make him feel too bad about it but dont give the praise or make a big deal out of it. Good Luck

Answer 10

that age is fun, isn't it?? *dripping with sarcasm*



Every kid is different, I remember when I was a kid (around 9 years old) my mom was taking care of my neice who was just about 3 years old. She would throw the most horrible tantrums!! My mom would just snatch her up by the arm when she fell to the ground and say very firmly (not yelling) "We don't do that in this house." and after a few times, she stopped. She was kinda thrown off and didn't know what to do. LOL



Now, for my son, I tried that and he just looked at me and started again. The thing that worked for my son is we would just ignore him completely. Sure the first couple of times he went on and on for awhile...it takes much patience! But we stuck to it and after awhile he was like...I'm not getting what I want by being a huge brat, so he slowly stopped.



It really is just a stage, I know it seems like a TERRIBLY LONG stage...but it will come to an end. =)



I hope you find something that works for you!!!

Answer 11

LOL



ahh the joys of toddler boys.



first of all he needs to be disciplined. I would start SEVERELY taking privileges away. TV, computer time, play time, whatever. Start giving time outs. Time outs are effective because they make they kid realize that no one wants to be around a jerk; it's a valuable tool for adult life.



For the potty training; just start making him wear underwear. PERIOD. No diapers or pull ups no matter how much he cries. He'll get sick of being wet and dirty. It's a pain in the butt for you, but that's part of being the parent. Don't forget YOU ARE THE PARENT! He's not allowed to win arguments yet, he's only three. If he doesn't listen to you now, what do you think is going to happen when he's 15? LAY DOWN THE LAW

Answer 12

No your son isn't possessed. He's 3 and a half! lol. If he's throwing tantrums and such I would say he's getting too much of his own way in the house. You guys are the parents, be firm with him. I'm sure part of it is just normal child rebellion and testing limits, but you have to set those limits for him and then not cave. I know it's tough to do when they're crying or throwing a fit, but I think it's the best thing you can do for him. Best wishes and good luck!

Answer 13

No your son is not possessed. He is more likely to be a hyperactive, attention seeking 3 year old!



If he is not sensitive to food colourings or too much sugar making him wild then perhaps consider the possibility he may have a hyperactive behavioural problem.



You mentioned you and your wife became stressed. To a three year old this is attention which equals affection and love. Maybe try to ignore the tantrums completely as in give him no reaction or response whatsoever, yet when he is quiet and plays nicely tell him what a lovely child he is.



Hope things get better for you soon xxx

Answer 14

Hi there sorry to hear about this problem its a common problem within young children, just a wee bit more extreme in some than others, try watching supernanny, they give expert advice and ive known people who have just watched it and copied many forms of discipline within the household..things changed dramatically!! you could of course ask people as you say youve already tried, you could give things another blast, or get some other advice or tips from books or other people with the same problems!!



i hope this helps.

Answer 15

.Starting nursery school will probably make a big difference to your son. He sounds as if he is going through the terrible threes. Try to ignore the tantrums as much as you can, as attention can help fuel them. Unfortunately there is no magic wand. Good luck

Answer 16

What a very horrid question for a so called loving parent to ask! Even when said as a joke, these sort of comments can scar a child! Perhaps you should look at the behaviour and langauge you exhibit before you worry about your son! Perhaps you could do with some parenting advice from a professional! Poor little kids, parents with such stupid ideas should not be allowed to have kids!

Answer 17

Once when my son was very young, he threw himself down in a toy store and started having fits because I wouldn't buy him...whatever it was. When he regained his senses, he looked up and there was no one in the aisle with him. (We were in the next aisle over, naturally, listening and peeking around the corner to be sure he was safe.) He got up and started walking down the aisle to find us and we stepped out and pretended nothing had happened.

He gave the fit-throwing another go several more times over the next few days, and got the same reaction. Eventually, he got the idea that it wasn't going to be successful.



He learned to stop having tantrums.



I learned that, by and large, kids do only what works. That's really valuable knowledge.

Answer 18

be firm.. I hope after his tantrum you DID NOT got to grandmas house...



I know you love him - or you wouldnt ask for help.. the best solution is consistancy and not giving in.. kids eventuallly learn if tantrums work or dont work... Where I work we hired a 15 yr old girl who basically is a tantrum thrower..its pretty sad, but her parents bascially trained her to do it, but giving in to her... (she is product of divorce and many times divorce parents dont disapline as much because they want to be the kids friend)...



any how also NO caffinated pops.. no colored Pops (red dyes can be esepcialli bad) ideally no pops at all (high sugar)...



a good spank might be a "wake up call" a quick "smarten up - we mean business" and a whole lot of "NO's"

make sure you reward good behavior as welll



if you say NO - mean it.. and DO NOT GIVE IN!!

Answer 19

i know this sounds bad but if he's being a bad kid you need to spank him more and be scarier about it. also spend mor nice time with him, teach him how to interact im sorry but my advice to you is not to spoil him quiet as much. just get a little scarier and stop acting like a desperate house wife, or just get him to be a little more social with people. or see a specialist about a parenting class. not that your a bad parent or anything but it will help you find out what makes him like he is.

Answer 20

Have you seen Super Nanny on tv UK? last night she helped calm a boy with the same problems you are experiencing.

www.supernanny.us.com this website may help you. if you type super nanny into search you may find other sites relating to her. Very knowledgeable and insightful, uses gentle means to help the child by setting boundaries. fret not, it shows he is healthy and exercising his will, which you have to direct so he gets what he wants by not screaming for it. god bless you will get through this. My son was a real handful so i do emphasise.

Answer 21

He will not grow out of out - it will get worse unless you take control. You sound like I used to be - "aaah, my precious little darling - she's only behaving like that because I usually let her have it - here you go darling" - B*ll*cks - It hurts you more than it hurts them, but you've got to give them a little smack, restrict priviledges etc, or they get worse. If you don't want him to get kicked out of school, start getting him to behave now. It will require full family co-operation (no undermining your partners discipline and vice versa....) You owe it to your son to do this for him - otherwise kids won't like him as he'll be selfish and unco-operative with them, and adults (including yourself, in a few years) won't want to be within a 50 mile radius of him. It'll be hard work, but you don't have an option!

Answer 22

You need to watch the nanny show. Your child needs to be ignored when he throws a tantrum and put into time out when he misbehaves. If you give him attention for his bad behavior, he will continue it.

Answer 23

It sounds like he extended the terrible two stage. I think it's normal for kids to have the terrible two's from age 2-4. I'm sorry I can't really help, I just wanted to wish you good luck!!

Answer 24

he aint possesed he just a toddler they are all like that when they wanna be you just have to put up with it mine dont do it much no cos i tell him off he screams and i ignore him when he settles down i tell him he cant do woteva he was doin in a calm voice and just repeat the cycle til he gives up normally 3-4 times

Answer 25

The only thing that I can tell you is when he acts like that there are a few things you can do...

1.) Put him in his bed and let him cry it out.

2.) Take away one of his favorite toys

3.) DO NOT give in to him



I think that he is perfectly normal. He is at that age, and that is all there is to it.



Good luck and no worries, he will be fine.

Answer 26

My son is the same age and does the same thing. I think it's all about testing the waters to see what he can get away with. The best thing you can do is warn him that if he doesn't stop his fit, he'll go to time out.

Answer 27

Try calling your local child and family connections.. They can send out someone to do in depth AT YOUR HOME "Nanny 911" style observation.

Answer 28

Let him go crazy and be quiet and just watch him... do this 4 like 4 times and he will get the idea!!



thant should do it worked 4 my cousin

Answer 29

it sounds like my son same age. i dont know whats wrong with him. i guess he needs more discipline. hoping he will grow out of it. good luck. doubt he's possessed. that's just how they handle things. gotta show them some other way to express themselves.

Answer 30

I dont think he is possesed. It seems he experienced some kind of trauma and this is the only way he knows to point out-SOMETHING IS WRONG!

I would turn to your family and search what are the family issues and if they can affect him.

Maybe he has some teath problem- meaning physical.

I would suggest family therapy.

Good luck

Answer 31

Yeah...A good magic swatting stick aught to fix that..Unless he starts speaking latin, he's not possessed

Answer 32

ring supernanny shes the best

Answer 33

http://parentcenter.babycenter.com/preschoolers?intcmp=leftnav_hp_preschoolerphase_preschooler



This is the best web site I have found, It's hard to be the parent. good luck

Answer 34

the best thing to do is be stricked even if he starts to cry u 2 tell him whos boss



if he like dis now imagine the the future!

Answer 35

Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder cannot be diagnosed unless they have a brain scan or bllod test i think its a hormone imbalance in toddlers. look it up.



or just plain bad manners! or too much sugar!



most kids are the same at his age, if you believe its that bad go back to another doc, for a second opinion

Answer 36

He is acting like a spoiled child. You need to spank him when he acts up or take a toy away and make him give it to Goodwill. That always worked with our daughter. The thought of giving one of her toys away straightened her up pretty quick.

Answer 37

hmmm, is your kid setting people on fire just by looking at them? do horrible beings spawn near your kid when he goes to sleep? c'mon... do you actually believe you're so lucky as to have a possessed kid? great publicity stunt though :p



no wand there, baal may have some left.

Answer 38

Thats just normal for a kid he will grow out of it.

Answer 39

no of course not when a child acts like that it means they are pineing for your attention or your wifes .

Answer 40

Maybe he has an anger problem? You could try taking him to a psychologist?

Answer 41

Sounds like he needs the Belt.

Answer 42

no he`s not possesed...........



you say hes 3 and 5 months old ? hmmmm split personality maybe.....

Answer 43

yeah give him a good spanking