I wrote a 2nd apology to the principal for picking on Emily who is in special ed in my H.S. needs feed back.?

Question

I wrote an apology to the principal for picking on Emily who is in special ed. Need advice and feed back on what I wrote. I was thinking about it t took about 1 hour to write. I posted questions on this in the past. In so many different categories I feel that we are all family out there. This is just a rough copy please give me input and any ideas you feel can help me. I am going to write an apology to Emily also but for right now the principal is more important to me

Answer 1

Mark, you aren't sorry for what you did, and if your principal has any brains, he/she will see right through your fake apology.



You say "I called her a retard and made fun of her looks", but then you go on to say you did her no harm...how is that? You totally ridiculed her, and even though she may be mentally slow, I'm sure her feelings were hurt.



You said "I admit I was involved in it but I didn’t do the act". How does that make it okay? Tell that to the cops when you're with a friend who kills someone.



You say that she took your abuse "the wrong way". I'm sorry, but I fail to see how calling her a retard and laughing when someone doused her with water could be taken any other way.



Besides that, if you were truly sorry for your actions (instead of just sorry that you're in trouble), you would be more worried about apologizing to Emily instead of saying that "the principal is more important to me".



You're a selfish and despicable person, and you should be thrown out of school. The fact that you would then have to get up two hours earlier is your own fault, and a small price to pay for what you did to that poor girl.

Answer 2

You need to leave out the part about forgiving him. You're the one asking for forgiveness and a second chance here. I'm sure you're sorry for what you did, but probably more for getting in trouble for it. Have you apoligized to Emily? Could you do so with a straight face in front of your friends? The point in this whole thing with the principal and your school is that you need to learn a lesson through this. Just like you felt disrespected by the principal saying negative things about you, Emily feels disrespected by the comments and actions of you and your friends. Have you REALLY thought about that? If you feel such pressure to maintain your status that you have to belittle other people, then on some level you must fear that rejection. Keep that in mind the next time you want to step on someone to try to climb to the top.

As far as the letter, you need to fix your grammatical errors and spelling errors for sure.

I'm really not trying to be rude, I just think you should look at this whole situation from a different perspective. This is one incident in your high school life. You'll move on, and most likely live a "normal" life and not think of this incident again; but for her, this IS life. She'll face obstacles the rest of her life because of something she can't help. Try to improve the lives of those you meet, not hurt them. You never know, one day you might get married and have an "Emily" of your own. You wouldn't want your child treated badly, disabilty or not.

Answer 3

I appreciate that you are looking to yahoo for feedback even though you have been criticized pretty brutally in the past. It is very hard to accept criticism but it is very transparent that you are doing this to try and gain something. You want to be able to attend the same school. You were wrong, this is the consequence. My suggestion is to offer an alternative consequence that the principal may be willing to consider. An apology just doesn't cut it. Ok the critique. Start with Mr. ______

not Dear sir, this isn't very personal, and you want it to be. Take out the in my defense, not hurting her, she took it wrong part. You are justifying why it is ok to bully. This won't go over well. Don't blame others about the water, it just makes it look like you are not taking responsibility for your actions. Take out the entire part of the hardship of switching schools. Put in feeling words. Acknowledge that you are a bully, feel sad about it and want to make restitution. Say that you think that you have a problem and would like help to work on it. Switching schools isn't addressing your issues. Suggest that you are willing to go to the school psychologist, start a behavior plan, become a peer mentor, a peer mediator. That you really wish to make up for what you did and that avoiding the problem by switching schools isn't helping anybody.

Apologize to her first, in an apology letter and in person if possible, try to have a mediation with her and her parents over the summer.

Answer 4

You have got to be one of the most selfish people I have run across!



It's more important to YOU to get the Principal to change his mind than for you to apologize to Emily????



Your world is still revolving completely around you as though you were a two year old. From what I have read in your question and the additional info you have given, you have obviously learned absolutely nothing from any of this.



If you STILL don't understand what you have done wrong and why it is wrong, you cannot write a sincere apology. Sit down with someone who can explain it to you before you start writing anything, otherwise all your writing is a waste of time.



If you are serious about getting help with anything, write the apology to Emily FIRST (and mean it), then write the Principal. The Principal and I both know that until you write to Emily and mean it, you are a lost cause.

Answer 5

No offence but i can find about thirty mistakes in ur letter and ur actions toward this innocent little girl.And i dont mean grammar.lets go for a little trip here.What if u had a big accident and got down syndrome like this little girl.now u mayy be thing well my friends would be fine with it and people would still like me right.Well, that part is probably true.but what if some kids came along and acted like u did.Now u may think,well i wouldnt care.But what uf they humilliated u.And poured water on u.i know u would feel mad.And wghAT IF THEY CALLED U NAMES AND taughnted U.Well,u may think i didnt do it all my self.AWell,what happened to helping someone out.If that happens tell them to stop or leave them alone and tell a authority figere.And no thats not being a snitch,being a snitch is trying to get someone in trouble.Although,helping is ,keeping someone from getting hurt and crushed.so,if ur really sorry tell the girl not the principle.well tell the principle sorry too.But first the girl.Also,if the principle keeps the punnishment.LIVE WITTH IT.Its was ur fault and not the principles.So,please think before u do and be a hero to any kid who needs help.

Answer 6

You could word it a little better. And it isn't an apology if you are defending yourself.



"In my defense I didn’t hurt her in anyway I just made comments about her."

If she went to the principals office crying, how could you think that you did not hurt her? Words can be as painful as a fist. She probably has self-esteem issues, and you just soccer punched that. This is like making fun of someone who has cancer, and saying that thats ok.



"She just took it the wrong way."

Do you expect her to laugh with you when you are calling her a retard? Do you expect her to smile when you make fun of the way she looks? How was she suppose to take this exactly? It sounds like you were making fun of her, was she just supposed to be okay with that?



"As you know it wasn’t I who poured water over her head. I admit I was involved in it but I didn’t do the act.I just laughed."

And that made it okay? What did you do to stop this? Did you ever think about how this would effect her? Standing there and laughing is just as bad as the person who poured the water. She is a person too, and if she was crying, obviously like any person has feelings. This was completely, and morally, wrong.



As for the principal comment, you are in no position to be demanding apologies, with the "I forgive you." What you did is actually worse than what your Principal told you. And look at it this way, how did it feel to have your Principal talk down to you? If you didn't like it, how do you think it felt for this girl when you were making fun of her?



Keep all this in mind when you are writing your apology. And making fun of someone who was born this way, is in no way acceptable and you should be ashamed of yourself. What did this girl ever do to you? Why of all the people in your school, do you choose to pick on the poor girl who is mentally challenged? You really need to re-examine your actions, and actually think next time before you do something like this, or you may really get kicked out of school. You were warned so many times, but never stopped. This apology needs to really show how sorry you are (hopefully you are), and show your principal that you wont do any of this again. Because being warned so many times, what is to stop you from doing this again? If it took almost getting kicked out of school for you to see this, you have GOT to change your behavior.

Answer 7

Hey Mark!! I've decided I'm going to write you a new-ish letter and then give you some advice on why i did it that way!



Dear Mr. (last name),

I wish to apologize for my treatment towards Emily. Whenever I called her a retard, made fun of her looks and her metal lunchbox, and all the other things, I was trying to be cool in front of my friends. I know she has Down syndrome and she can’t help the way she looks, feels, and thinks. I also know that throughout the school year you and other teachers alike, warned me to stop harassing her. I did not listen and I am truly sorry for that. I was the one who succumbed to peer pressure and made vulgar comments about her. Even though I did not go as far as pouring water over her head, I was involved in the act of her emotional torture. I am truly sorrly for causing her so much emotional pain.



I would also like for you to reconsider your choice of making me change schools. I would have to wake up two extra hours and switch two buses to get there. It will take me longer to get home after school, which means I will stay up later to finish homework. This will eventually effect my sleep rate and my grades will drop. I do have the knowledge that you have spoken with my mother on numerous occasions, over the phone and in person. I don’t believe it is fair that you told my mother that I deserve to be back in preschool, not in high school, wearing pampers like all the other little babies. Could you please consider giving me another chance because I promise that I will behave myself and will not harm Emily any more.

Sincerely,

Mark (your last name)



ok so yes i have edited you out alot in the second paragraph especially where you started to say "I don’t want to sound like a whinny baby sir but It wasn’t fair when you spoke to my mother " because you sounded exactly like you didnt want to sound.



Oh yeah and I suggest you appoligize to Emily before you send this to the principal so you can send him a copy of your letter to her along with this one.

Answer 8

Address the principal by title and name

Check your grammar, punctuation and spelling



Your attitude sucks!!! You sound like you are kissing up to the principal and still don't really care what Emily thinks or how she feels. How do you think you would feel if she were your sister and was being ridiculed by your friends. Do you still think it would be cool?



Ok if we are all family out here, you, my son, are grounded until you graduate, if you are lucky enough to live that long. Any child of mine who tried the kind of Kr@p you pulled would be sitting in his bedroom with no TV, no computer, no video games and no ipod!!!

You should also write a letter of apology to Emily before you try kissing up to the principal. Her feelings are more important than the principal.

Answer 9

it doesnt matter if you did it or not you were involved in it and did nothing to stop it. You should be ashamed of yourself. belive it or not what you said to her does affect and hurt her in more ways than you know. I have a sister with the same problem and every time some one makes fun of her she cries cause it hurts her. How would you feel if someone said something to you that hurt your feelings you need to write a good apolgy to her and mean it. we have enough rude people on this earth we dont need any more!!!!!!!

Answer 10

Don't talk about the assumed wrong your principal did, and don't "forgive him". Just talk about YOU and how wrong YOU were. If I were the principal, I would just make you suffer for the rest of the year--he warned you several times, and you made the choice to continue the behavior. You get what you deserved.

Answer 11

TO me it sound like your making excuses for what you did instead of being truly sorry, I think you need to re read this as if you were the one being picked on, I dont think you would find this letter truly sincere.

Answer 12

You might want to take out the part about you forgiving him, because it makes him sound wrong...dont point out his flaws if you want him to reconsider. I hope you really are sorry about Emily though, and mean what you say.

Answer 13

why do you keep posting this





people this person has posted this many times do not listen. BTW this was the same case on Judge Just 2 days ago

Answer 14

Try not pointing out your principles wrongs, and check your spelling. You have a lot of grammatical errors, and tons of double negative.

Answer 15

I hope you learned your lesson!

Answer 16

honestly I think that you deserve what your going though ...

Answer 17

Yes sounds good. Check your spelling and grammer first.

Answer 18

this is ok