Moms talking about their son's penis size... does this bother anyone?

Question

Does anyone ever notice this and does it bother anyone? I've been working in daycare for the past 7 months and almost everyday I hear comments from moms and sometimes my co-workers about how well endowed a boy is and how he won't have problems with the ladies or occasionally I'll hear someone mention how tiny a boy's penis is. I don't know if I'm just stuck up, but I get really uncomfortable when I hear comments like these. My cousin who has a 17 month old boy has occasionally made comments about her son's penis size as well. This past Labor Day we all went to the park and she was changing his diaper on the table and said he's definitely going to be a "big" boy and then she winked. How can you even make that type of assessment on a boy at that age? How do these women even know what an impressive size for a boy that age is? A mother shouldn't have any concern at all about the size of her boy's penis. Since I'm hearing these types of comments from women so much, I'm assuming that it's no big deal and every mom does it and I'm just stuck up. Does anyone agree with me that it's a bit vulgar? Have you heard these type of comments? What types of comments have you heard other women say? Has anyone ever made a comment about your son? Do you even remotely care about the size of your son's penis?

Answer 1

I agree with you too, it seems vulgar and pointless... And makes me glad i have a baby girl! I have never heard anyone say comments like this, but if i did, i would feel the same as you about it... like i said, i have a girl, but if i had a boy, i really think the size of his penis would be my last concern....

Answer 2

Sure, it's not abnormal to feel that way. I'm only 18 and don't have kids so I wouldn't know anything about raising boys OR girls but I understand how that makes you feel. Considering its the most private part of the male anatomy, similar to the breasts of a female child, it seems awkward that older people (especially the parents!) mention this in public. Be aware that people might talk about their kids this way, but really it's not meant to mean anything bad, just that well the like talking about their kids!

But I believe it's also part of our North American culture, as we are but a small part of the human population. In other cultures the private parts are considered just a regular part of the human anatomy and there is no discomfort talking about/seeing it. As well from studying anthropology, cultures also encourage children to explore sexual behavour at a young age too, which would be shocking here! But I digress.....

Bottom line, try not to take offense to it because they're probably only trying to joke just because the love their kids so much! However if you do not feel comfortable when it is mention, you may always politely change the subject, or nicely explain that you do not feel comfortable with the conversation. It shouldn't reck a pleasant day. Best of luck hope this helps!

Answer 3

I am 15 and the only girl of 5 boys.They are 18 yrs , 7yrs 4yrs and 1mnth. My mom did talk about the penis a lot.With the 7 yr old i was still young so i thought it was the most disgusting thing ever.Now that i'm a little older and seen how common it is it doesn't seem like a big deal.Mothers are just werird sometimes

Answer 4

I certainly wouldn't go around bragging or referring to my son's penis in a sexual light. I'm sure it's intended humourously, but it's not a joke I'm personally comfortable with, nor something I want to think about!



However I think it's natural for some parents to perhaps worry. I'm basing this on the fact that I've noticed when a couple of my friends have changed their younger baby boys in front of me that they have had larger penises than my son. I would never say anything to them about it, or anybody I know for that matter, for I feel that would be betraying my son's privacy... I know he is only 11 months old but I wouldn't talk about my son's penis to people I know when he was older, so why would I now? But I did post a question, after that, on here, simply asking whether having a small penis as a baby in any way correlates to perhaps having a small penis later on in life (I know that might have been a naive question, but if you don't know you don't know!). I had a lot of responses, saying generally no it doesn't, and from a lot of parents who'd also had the same worry. For me, it isn't that I'm worried that my son won't have a big penis to impress the ladies or whatever, as I said that is something I absolutely don't want to think about! However I am aware that men with small penises often suffer with self esteem issues about it, and that's not something I would want my son to have to go through, so as weird as it sounds, I would prefer for him not to have a small penis when he is older, although I am sure it is never a conversation we'll have!



When I asked the question, I acknowledged that it was a strange thing to ask and said I hoped nobody thought I was weird, and explained the reason behind my concern. The responses from other parents were that I wasn't weird, and that it was a natural concern to have, as no parent likes the thought of their children suffering esteem issues.



But I certainly haven't mentioned it to anybody I know or anybody who knows my son, nor would I, I think that would be disrespectful to him and fairly inappropriate. I asked it on the internet to anonymous strangers who'll never be in a position to meet or judge me or my son!

Answer 5

I may be desensitized to it because i am a nurse but it doesn't phase me at all. I have heard several women comment. I never have but my sons' are neither very small nor very big so idk and don't care.



I do have a close friend who has a son that is the same age as one of mine. She does say regularly how small he is, and he is very very small. She isn't worried about it, she did ask the doc and he said its fine and has no bearing on later in life. She also thinks my son is large but she is just used to looking at her son

Answer 6

I think the only time I have ever refered to my son's penis in a conversation away from home was discussing why I didn't circumsize, and discussing his hydroseal.



I will never partake in a conversation about the size, as far as I am concerned he will be having sex all too soon, and I don't want to think about it yet.

Answer 7

I have honestly never heard this. Referring to your child's penis as something sexual: (he won't have problems with the ladies) seems wrong to me. The only time I talk about my twin boys' private area is when I suddenly need to "duck and cover" or if there is a rash, or when their circumcisions were healing. There's just something wrong with the sexual innuendos.

Answer 8

I find that weird too.... I mean i have a 17 month old and ya i have said stuff about his penis but its like "honey hes getting a rash under his pee pee" or "Brody just because u have a pee pee doesnt mean we play with it" so ya i find moms talking about the kids penis size very weird...especially to other people.

Answer 9

No I've never thought anything about it I just knew to take cover when opening that diaper

Answer 10

As a father of two boys, it kinda disturbs me that people would refer to their kids like that.



it's not necessary, and it's a little too weird to refer to your kids in that kinda way.

Answer 11

I don't care how many people do this, it's crooked.

Answer 12

i totally agree with you