Question:
Parenting advice please help?
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2016-08-05 14:51:08 UTC
I have a 2 year old (29 months old) to be exact. He is terribly behaved. This just started after he turned 2. He doesn't have tantrums anymore but he is so violent to everyone. Hitting kicking biting pinching. He does the exact opposite of what I say. He breaks everything and makes a mess no matter what. I've tried almost everything I've read books and researched online. Nothing phases him and I get no help. What can I do? Please no judgement. I'm at the end of my rope. I'm tired of spending all day upset and angry.
Eight answers:
?
2016-08-06 13:34:17 UTC
Well, he's a healthy 2 year old. That's how they are.

Part of your job as a parent is to set and enforce boundaries. You shouldn't expect him to be a perfect little angel, but you can lay down the law with certain things.

Him hitting, pushing, biting, etc. isn't acceptable and you can't tolerate it. Time out, loss of privilege, even spanking. Do whatever you have to do. Make sure he know that those things are not allowed and if he does them, there will be consequences.



Being a slob and breaking things; that's more of a misbehavior that you can work on over time. Praise for picking things up and playing gently with things is best. If he's deliberately destroying things in an attempt to anger you, then you treat that the same as if his aggression were physically directed toward you.



Remember that he desires your attention. If you don't give him the positive attention that he needs for behaviors you like, then he'll learn to get your attention by doing negative things.





The most important thing you said is that you're at the end of your rope.



You need time to get away from chasing a two foot terror, be an adult, and relax. That means you have to enlist others to help you care for him so you can unwind. Grandparents are great for this. Sticking daddy with him for a day so you can go get a mani-pedi is a great little escape for a mommy.
Marceline
2016-08-12 02:08:54 UTC
There are several factors which may contribute to this. Firstly, it's called the "terrible two's" for a reason. My son pretty much lost his mind too. Teeth are still shifting and molars are coming down at this age. Painful growth spurts are occuring. Most children, unbeknownst to their parents, are highly sensitive to & behaviorally influenced by the foods they eat. They are absorbing information much better and learning to process things on top of dealing with tumultuous surges of emotions. Any violence he witnesses first or second hand will be emulated. If you are getting angry & frustrated with his behavior, he sees it. Keep a level head & always speak softly to him, even if you're upset because he just hit your eye with a toy. You express authority better when you don't lose your cool. Never hit him; he's a baby & needs to be shown how to treat others. His behavior won't cease overnight but give him a year or two to work it out of his system. He is going through a lot & needs you.
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2016-08-05 15:02:00 UTC
This is a very honest post, and being a babysitter for several years, I totally get it! Each kid is different. One of the important things to remember is why and how often does the behavior occur? Is it constant? Is it during a certain part of the day? He is in the stage where he is becoming more independent, but maybe he is frustrated he can't do everything by himself yet. In my household, we rented the No David and Llama Llama book series, reading those with the children helps as they can listen and understand the character's frustration. To prevent physical injury it is important to evaluate what types of objects are in the home, toys that could pose injury risks if they are thrown or kicked should be removed/stored in a closet. Good luck to you! If the outbursts continue maybe consider speaking to your doctor. Take your son to the park, on a car ride. Usually children grow out of this stage. When he hits it is important to gauge your reaction. It is important to say "No, that is hurtful!" Spankings are ineffective, time out corners can be somewhat effective.
B
2016-08-06 11:37:08 UTC
Take him to outdoor activities where he can run, jump, and take out his agression. Do not provide sugary foods (which could be making him feel wound up like a spring), and restrict him to three solid meals a day with one snack, no soda, only milk and pure juice. His problem could be organic, go take him to a good pediatrician today and have him checked out.
JenWales
2016-08-05 14:52:57 UTC
Have you had him evaluated by his doctor? I'd start there. This might just be a highly spirited kid or it might be a child with some problems. Now is the time to find that out.
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2016-08-10 17:25:37 UTC
Smack the body part he hurt you with 3 good times. He will learn that it hurts to hurt someone and it isn't a nice thing to do.
?
2016-08-05 14:51:19 UTC
Yup
Deee
2016-08-05 14:52:09 UTC
Ok.. U need I slap him to teach him a lesson


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