is it really a good thing to put my kid in daycare ?

Question

ok my almost 3 year old is starting daycare tomorrow and i'm a little worried about her she's never been away from me a day in her life is daycare really a good thing for her ?

Answer 1

Absolutely. Your child needs to learn to socialize with people other than you. Not only with the adult caregiver, but the other children.



I kept my son with me for almost two years. At that time he would talk, but it was kind of his own language/babbling. He had never been around other children either, so he didn't even know what it was like to be around children and to play with them. After only 1 month in day care, he was speaking with normal words, counting to 5, and generally excited to go to daycare each day to be with his new friends. It was the best thing I could have done for my child.



I know children who never went to daycare and they are spoiled, do not share, throw fits if they don't get their way (since it's only ever been "their way"), and cry if mom and dad leave their sight. Imagine the shock it will be for them the first day of school!



If you do not like the idea of leaving your child for 8 or more hours per day, and if you do not have to go back to work, consider taking your child to daycare for just a couple hours each day. And maybe only 2-3 days per week. Not only will it be great for your child, but you will be able to get some free time as well.

Answer 2

In moderation, while the parents are working, daycare is just fine. It provides a safe, nurturing, learning environment, and allows your child to interact with other children. I am a daycare teacher, and in most cases the children do just fine. The first couple days can be a little rough, but as soon as they learn that you are coming back, they actually enjoy coming and playing with all the other children. However, I see a lot of children that get dropped of from 6am when we open, until 5:30pm when we close. It's so sad to me that a parent can leave their child in someone elses hands for 11 1/2 hours a day, knowing that they do not work that long. So, in excessive amounts like that, then i do not agree that that is the right choice for the child. If you aren't working and need a place for your child to interact with other children, you could try a preschool, or playgroup, or even the local library. Swimming and gymnastics can be fun activities also. It doesn't sound like you have a choice...don't worry, he will be just fine!! Hope this helps!

Answer 3

What is the reason you're putting her in daycare? I'm guessing work. If not and you're utilizing it as a socialization tool then that's a different answer. I'll start with what I think is the easy short answer one first...



Socialization: There are plenty of other ways to get a child familiar with social skills and interaction with other children. Contact you local hospital and find out about mommy & me classes, contact the public library and find out about age appropriate group sessions.



Work: Have you done your daycare homework?? Have you reasearched the daycare, double checked their credentials and made sure they were up to code? Have you checked out the facilities? Have you popped in (unannounced) at least once of a couple of times to see a "real" environment (not one where they are expecting you-and on their best behavior). Did you talk to other parents that take their children there. Have you asked what their turn-around rate is, do kids come & go often or quickly (bad sign)



There's a lot to ponder and consider before you should dropp off your child at the door.....

Answer 4

I do think that it is very important for a child that age to be cared for by others sometimes.



We have this myth that children were traditionally kept home with their mothers 24/7. It's not true at all. Throughout history, most women have worked outside the home - whether it was as an nurse, selling in the market, picking in the fields, sewing, etc. It was only the very rich women who could afford to stay home with their children all day.



Throughout history, children were typically cared for by other members of the community. Grandmothers and other women in the community... I don't see any reason why they would be less safe in a daycare setting. If anything, they will be safer today because of the training, rules and guidelines that most daycares must follow.



I think that in today's society, we're so isolated. Women are taught to think that it is wrong to go out and work, and that they are not good mothers unless they stay at home, bored and unstimulated, with their young children. I think that it prevents children from learning how to negotiate and play with other children. Also, your child will learn in daycare that he is not the center of the universe. It is healthy.

Answer 5

she'll be able to interact with other kids at a younger age which is good. She'll be taught how to share and that's good. My kids have been in daycare since they were small but I have to work! It helps them in many ways so I wouldn't worry. The only downfall is that she's gonna get sick alot...but that will build up there immune system. since my kids go to daycare I give them vitamins everyday to help them!

Answer 6

I think so. She'll learn social skills and learn how to play with other kids. My daughter has been in daycare since she was 4 months old and now she's 14 months, and a people person. I think it will be harder on you then it will be on her.

Answer 7

A "good" thing for her? Is it necessary? Are you having to work now or is there some reason to put her in daycare? If not then I would never, ever put my child in daycare. They can get socialization at playgrounds, playgroups, preschool programs where you can volunteer. I would not let my child be alone with strange people and in a strange environment without me. I don't think it's a safe or healthy environment personally. But of course that is for everyone to decide individually.

Answer 8

I artwork in a daycare besides, and that i've got faith your soreness. do no longer hear to the guy who reported you're a foul guy or woman for this. The daycare I artwork in is a church daycare besides, and additionally you will't help it if this youngster retains coming in. you're trying your superb i understand, yet there are some issues you are able to desire to be doing greater desirable. whilst he misbehaves, do no longer lose your cool, communicate gently and tell him what he did incorrect, then placed him in timeout. If he leaves, placed him back in. in case you're letting him smash out with leaving he will merely shop doing it, and in no way learn from his blunders. additionally, in case you do no longer punish him for his actual misbehavior you're additionally coaching the different little ones interior the room that it incredibly is effective, and that they might start to do it besides, then you definately will incredibly have a difficulty on your hand. Are you via your self or in communities for each room? in case you have yet another guy or woman in there with you, confirm you 2 party and improve a plan for him, and additionally you the two incredibly need to adhere to it. refer to mom back, if this maintains, I infer that mom did no longer supply you any suggestion in the previous? If it is been awhile on the grounds which you final asked her, approach her and say something alongside the lines of, i understand you have been sending him to a professional, has the professional reported something? Do you have any information for me? i admire the way you worded it in the previous, whilst speaking to mom. you do no longer choose again off the incorrect thank you to her. merely be consistent and shop going with him, you do no longer opt to offer up, by way of fact he's barely 9 and lots progression could be made. solid success.

Answer 9

If she absolutely has to be there she will be fine, if you are only doing it so she can interact with other kids there are plenty of activities you can do with her where she can have time with other kids her age. Not bashing or judging anyone who has to use daycare but I would not put them in there just cause.

Answer 10

my daughter will be 3 in March. She was in day care from October 2007-April 2208 because i had to start working after being home with her from birth. She was hysterical the first week ever day when i dropped her off she would freak out. But after that, she would clap when we would pull into the parking lot. She LOVED it, and i noticed that while in day care, she learned more. She would sing new songs, and also learned her ABC's and learned how to count. i took her out in April of 08, because i lost my job and i was home with her again. I noticed she got bored easily, and would ask to play with her friends. So when i got a new job in August i have been looking since then to find a day care that i was happy with. I just recently found one that i like, and she will start there this Monday. She is SO excited to go back to school, and talks about it all the time.



I can say that I was apprehensive at first to put her in day care and let strangers take care of her. I didn't trust anyone to watch her and care for her as good as I can - being that i am her mother, i know best.



But i must admit - now that i know how much she learns....i am happy to put her in day care. And to those opposed to day care ( i was once one of you)....no it doesnt make me a bad parent because my child is in day care........it makes me a parent that has to work to provide for her child, and i do it very well......i have the polite, respectful, sweet, and inteligent little girl to prove it!

Answer 11

there is a mix of both i guess. the bad side would be the initial seperation and settling in. worrying for you and a little stressful for your child. but as soon as they realise that the people looking after them are nice and they make friends and enjoy the variety of new toys and resources avaliable to them they may pick up new skills that you cant offer when its just you and your child. such as sharing with more children and joining in with group activities and simply socialising with children their own age! so there are benefits i believe :-)

Answer 12

My mom always did the half day preschool (I guess it's called Mother's Day Out now?) and that was always good. I got exposed to other children, but I didn't start calling other people Mama.

Answer 13

yes. she needs to be introduced to many childern her own age. she will cry the first and prolly second and third day but after a while she will be prefectly fine there. and it is better for her to get socialized before she starts school and has no idea how to make friends.

Answer 14

i think daycare is a good thing, they teach children well.