What do I need to do about my 19 month olds Temper Tantrums? He can be so Destructive!?

Question

My 19 month old is such a happy boy but when he gets angry, its bad!! First off, i should probably say that he is an only child with my husband and I, and he has a step brother that is 2 from my husband that stays with us every other week. 7 days on and 7 days off. He throws these awful fits, he will bang his head ont he floor, walls, furniture. Hits the furniture, hard furniture at that, and bangs his body on things. He with throw anything he can get in his reach. For example, today i told him it was time to come inside so he instantly threw himself in the grass. I picked him up and carrie dhim in the house and explained that it was time to eat some lunch. When we got into the house, he just started throwing the worse tantrum thurs far. banging his head on the floor, hitting the walls, door frames. I had just brought in groceries and had sat them in the floor when i walked in the door and he just started trying to pick the bags up to throw them, and then once he realized he couldn't pick them up, he started hitting them and taking thigns out and throwing them. I just stood in amazement, and I said, (HIS NAME), we will go outside later. He then looked at me and ran at me and tried to bite my leg. I pulled him back and them got on the floor and tried to hold him, his chest to my chest, and he then started clawing at my arms. he then started grabbing my hair and pulling as hard as he could, so I turned him around and restrained him, but his arms were still free, so he started slapping himself in the face and then grabbed his hair with both hands and pulled and screamed at the top of his lungs and pulled to clumps of hair out. I then restrained his arms, and rocked him telling him it was going to be okay. His cry finally turned from an angry cry to an upset sob so we jsut rocked until he was about to fall asleep and then i took him and fed him his lunch and put him down for a nap. He cried the entire time, just screaming out at the top of his lungs. When his brother is here and makes him mad, he will just chrage at him in anger andtackle him, try to bite him, shove him against a wall and I do get onto him for this by spanking his bottom and telling him that we have to be nice to our brother. Is there any help anyone can give me? He doesn't get juice or sweets so it isn't that. Please some advice. Should I contact his doctor? If so, what would the doctor do? thanks so Much in advance!!

PS But now he is just playing and smiling so happily!! He is a very happy boy until he doesn't get his way or someone make him angry!!

Answer 1

That would definitely warrant a visit to the doctor. Tantrums are normal, but he's going too far to the extreme to be "normal." Kids won't usually hurt themselves when they throw tantrums (at least not very much), but if he's pulling his hair out and hitting himself, that could mean something isn't right with him.

Answer 2

Lol! (sorry) I'm going through the same thing with my 20 month old son! He loves to play outside but being pregnant this heat is not good for me at all so when it's time to come in he screams. I take him by the hand, bring him in and let him cry it out. Same with other situations. Cry it out. Now depending on the situation I'll intervene and try to help calm him down.

But as for the hurting himself, let him, he'll hurt himself once and stop. My son banged his head on the floor when he got mad at first I stopped him then I just let him do it. The first time he hit the ground hard I came over and told him, "That hurt huh? Don't do it if it hurts." I say it every time. He's slowly stopped, but still throws himself on the floor.

This brother needs to learn bonderies, he has NO right spanking, throwing him against the wall and such. HE needs to be disaplined!

Your son sounds like a typical terrible twos, ignore the cries for his "wants" and tend to the cries for his "needs".

Answer 3

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Answer 4

I think he might have some angry issues because he is inflicting pain on himself. I would call the doctor and just tell him everything that he has doing.