Does anybody out there know any tricks to helping a stubborn child learn. He just won't cooperate?

Question

My son was born premature, has physically grown out of that, but I worry about his mental. We know he's not handicapped mentally, however we have tried to teach him the things most 4 yr olds have down,(shapes,colors, etc.) every other time he gets colors right but shapes, Circle is the only one he seems to be able to identify readily. We are currently haveing him tested to see if he needs special language thearapy, but so far the tester can't get a good understanding because consistenly he get one answer right and on wrong. I know my son is smart, he does things that prove it , I am at my wits end trying to communicate with him and teach him the things he needs to enter kindergarten and excel in academics. I am a poor mom I can't afford all the dr. help available. So maybe someone can give me some stories, clues, advice, hints any thing to help me figure out how to gwt a smart boy over a unknown hump. He dosen't speak well either, although in that respect he tries very hard.

Answer 1

I teach 4 year olds and really, developmental milestones are reached by different children at different times. I wouldn't worry about it too much as some kids take an entire academic year to get those shapes down (especially the square and the rectangle.) I have even have kids go an entire year and still don't have any name recognition.

If you want to help him out, play games with him instead of sitting down to "homework time" Play games such as "I spy" (I spy a wheel, it looks like a circle, I spy a door, it looks like a rectangle) And trust me, most 4 year olds don't have the shapes and colors down perfectly. The fact that you are working with him will give him an advantage. Is he already in preschool? Usually going to school boosts children's desire to pick up this information because teachers do these things in a sing song way, and well, the competition helps.

If you want to start activities and sing songs, go to the web...websites such as http://www.atozkidsstuff.com and http://www.toddlertoddler.com/ might be of use to you.



Just remember, don't stress or make it seem like it is a huge deal that he can't do it yet, give him time, if he feels like he is dissappointing you, it may create a block and he will lose confidence in himself. As for his speech problems, it depends on where you live, really, but once he is in school you may want to ask and see where you can get information about speech therapy. In the district I work for, children with speech impediments receive additional support at no extra cost to the parents. See what your school district has available for you. Good Luck!

Answer 2

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Answer 3

As far as the financial issue goes, with all do respect, I'm sorry, but try to borrow some cash and just take your son to a doctor to analyze and diagnose him medically. After you know what his condition is, you can get some expert's assistance in determining whether or not he'll net mental therapy. He could be suffering minor autism or hyperactive state.

Now for your part. Be strong and take it easy. Your son is here for reasons, and one of those reasons is to help you become a more patient person. His "normality" is not entirely in your hands. He would have to do something about it too, so as long as you show him a strong will and the motivation to always learn, he'll do good.

My prayers to him and you :) Be healthy and happy :)

Answer 4

If you are a Super Working Mom just make sure your Son has his sleep which is very important to be able to comprehend some learning. You might have to put your foot down.

By talking to working parents most behavioural or learning probelms occur when the child does not get enough sleep.

I have seen children who don't speak well excel in school from observation, learning can come at it's own pace when he is ready sometimes. I forced my girl to learn and read at a young age.

Answer 5

When my ADHD son struggled to learn how to tie his shoe laces (equal parts lack of focus and lack of motivation...mommy will tie it, why bother?), I tried something I had learned in college child development class. I wrote a short song describing the technique, and sang it to him until his ears bled, often demonstrating the technique while singing. He resisted, but within a few days he had it down, after several months of repetitive, exasperated instruction.



The principle of this method is the fact that people have a much easier time remembering snippets of song, odd bits of visual imagery, or poetry than they do ordinary data. These memory cues are called mnemonic devices, and I used them in college to memorize long lists of data, such as the geologic eras or Moh's hardness scale. A common one is the sentence used to remember the planets in order.



Now, of course your son is waaaay too young to use an alphabetic cue, but a silly little ditty can do the trick. Write one for the information you want to impart, and repeat it endlessly. It WILL sink in despite his best efforts otherwise.

Answer 6

Have you had his sight and hearing tested? it is difficult to advise you what to do at this point since I don't know where you are and what community resources are available to you. Just remember two things; if you know he's smart, he may take a little longer than others to learn these basics, but he will learn them. Also, failure to learn lies with the instructor, not the student so don't get angry with him or let him know if you get frustrated that it isn't because of him but because you're not sure what you're doing.

try getting in touch with your public health nurse to see what community resources are available to you.

Answer 7

I have a very stubborn son also and to help him count to 10 or now 20 i sat down with him on my knees and tell him to count to 10 and we will blast off. First i go through the numbers with him and then we blast off like rockets jumping into the air. Then I finally get him to count and get him to say blast off. My son picked this up really quickly because he loves rockets. We also have done flash cards. I hope this helps you

Answer 8

sometimes you just have to be patient on the child. avoid pressurizing him to learn, make the learning fun, practice with fruit shapes and food shapes that he can enjoy later. if not try kindergarten or pre school so that he can learn in an environment with his fellow agemates, such a challenging and exciting environment may boost his capabilities

Answer 9

Make a game of it. Don't push and don't get upset. I have twins hat are almost 2. I play with them daily but the are also learning. When I am changing them, I get them to count for me, when I am fixing them something to eat, I get them to do colors. They know carrots are orange and green beans are green. Have fun. He will catch on.

Answer 10

Its called the spinning backhand my friend.... this will whip him into shape in no time

Answer 11

crystal is on point.